As long as I live I don't think that I will ever understand why people feel they have to lie to someone to keep them. A couple of months ago I started talking to someone romantically, we weren't dating but we were close to it. I suppose we were seeing each other. It was cool for a couple weeks but then the novelty wore off and it occurred to me that the relationship wouldn't go anywhere. We decided to end things after a few months of seeing each other. Honey had some objections with the way I conduct myself while dating.
I tend to follow a few simple rules when dating. First, nothing becomes official before 6 months of continuous dating. Second, no hanky panky. A girl can't just give her goodies to any old fool that thinks she's cute. Third and maybe most important, PLAY YOUR POSITION. This means that if I am not officially your girlfriend I'm not going to act like it.
Allow me to expand on that last rule. I would expect honesty from anyone in my life, but if I am just getting to know you honesty is mandatory. How can you build a relationship on lies? It just isn't possible. So if during the course of courting a question is asked, i.e. are you seeing anyone else, answer truthfully because yes it could hurt any chances with me or it might not even matter. But the decision should be left to me to make. I don't get why the truth is so hard. When I catch someone in a lie that is the end. I don't deal with liars! Growing up we got punished for lying because our parents believed that children who lie, steal; children who steal kill. It might be a bit of an exaggeration, but really. If you can lie straight to someones face what else can you do?!
The lies that people tell and the deceit is the main reason I remain single. I don't trust many people and as more and more people in my life fall into that category I am left suspecting everyone. I am honest to a fault and I don't mind the same quality from people in my life. I find it refreshing. Contrary to what my ex told me after our breakup, lies don't protect the person they are told to. They only protect the person lying. Despite all the BS that I've encountered while dating I still remain a hopeless romantic. I'm sure Prince Charming will ride in any moment and save me from the evil world of dating. Ha!
Saturday, October 3, 2009
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i like this. good one.
ReplyDeleteGood post!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you and i feel the same way.